Things People Never Say Out Loud About Suicide But Need to Be Heard

Suicide is one of the most misunderstood topics in our society. Many people struggling with suicidal thoughts feel isolated, unheard, or ashamed to speak about what they are experiencing. While awareness around mental health is growing, there are still things people rarely say out loud, things that need to be acknowledged if we want to truly support those in crisis.

1. “I’m scared to admit how bad it really feels.” Many individuals experiencing suicidal ideation fear judgment or misunderstanding. They worry that telling someone how deep their pain goes will push people away, or that they will be seen as “weak” or “overreacting.” Simply acknowledging their courage in opening up even a little can make a world of difference.

2. “I feel like a burden to everyone around me.” It’s common for people struggling with suicidal thoughts to feel like their existence is causing problems for others. This belief is often deeply internalized and contributes to the cycle of despair. Listening without judgment and reminding them that their life has value can help break through these painful thoughts.

3. “I don’t know how to ask for help.” Reaching out for support can feel impossible. Many individuals don’t know where to start, who to trust, or how to express their feelings without fear of consequences. Encouraging professional support, providing resources, and simply being present can help them take that first step.

4. “I’m tired of pretending everything is okay.” Masking inner pain is exhausting, and many people silently struggle while appearing “fine” on the outside. Allowing space for honest conversation without judgment gives them permission to stop pretending and feel heard.

5. “I’m afraid of being judged or dismissed.” One of the greatest fears of someone experiencing suicidal thoughts is that others will minimize their pain with clichés or quick solutions like “Think positive” or “It could be worse.” Listening empathetically and validating their feelings communicates that they are seen and their pain is real

6. “I need someone to just be with me.” Sometimes, words aren’t necessary. The presence of someone who cares, checking in, sitting quietly together, or sending a simple message, can provide immense relief. Compassionate attention can literally save lives.

Conclusion

Suicide is rarely about wanting to die, it’s often about wanting relief from unbearable pain. Recognizing the unspoken truths and creating a space where people feel safe to share can be life-changing. If you or someone you know is struggling, don’t wait. Reach out to a trained professional, counselor, or crisis hotline. Showing up, listening, and validating their experience can make all the difference.

Resources:

● National Emergency Hotline: 112 (Available 24/7 for health-related emergencies)

● Lagos Lifeline (0700 000 6463): State-run mental health emergency line for Lagos residents

● Mentally Aware Nigeria Initiative (MANI): 0809 111 6264, 0811 168 0686 (Youth-driven mental health NGO)

● SURPIN (Suicide Research and Prevention Initiative): 0800 7877 746 (Toll-free, 24/7)

● Safe Place Nigeria (She Writes Woman): 0800 800 2000 (24/7 crisis counseling)

If you or someone you know is in immediate danger or needs urgent support, please contact any of these helplines. You are not alone, and help is available.